A blueprint for curbing suicide

Jan 17, 2016 Letters

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Dear Editor,
We are all deeply saddened by the scourge of suicide that has reached pandemic proportions in our country. Region Two alone had about nine suicides and two attempts since the beginning of 2016 while other Regions had lesser amounts. Whether the number is large or small, we as a country need to deal with this plague in proactive ways. It is of little use to be fiddling, theorizing and lamenting if we do not find pragmatic ways of curbing this crime; we have to identify and implement practical ways. All stakeholders and this means literally everyone, have vested interest in preventing suicide and, therefore, all should be involved at various levels in preempting it.
Having said that, I would now outline my suggestions to drastically reduce, if not completely reduce suicide. I will focus on a three-prong approach—schools, home and community—which by no means is exhaustive.
SCHOOLS
Since most suicides are committed by young people, schools should be totally involved in tackling the situation. Ideally each school should have a trained counselor. In the absence of this, the available counselors, psychiatrists, social workers and psychologists, religious and other leaders (who can be considered as role models) should visit schools regularly and deliver motivational talks to the student body. Also, these professionals and leaders should educate the staff at staff meetings on how to detect students who may be prone to suicide. Certain signs and symptoms should send warning signals that all is not well. For instance;
1.    Behavioral Changes. Changes in mood:  from jovial to sad; sociable to withdrawn, becoming a loner; full of life and active to loss of interest in activities, etc.
2.    Physical Changes. Signs of bruises, cuts, welts and other marks; wearing long-sleeved shirts, buttoned up, possibly to cover marks of violence; neglect of neatness and appearance.
3.    Economic Changes. Economic abuse when the breadwinner shortchanges dependents usually results in poor quality of food or not food at all, lack of school supplies and low self-esteem.
These and other signs and symptoms should raise red flags which should be obvious but are oblivious to an untrained, casual observer who looks but does not see. Therefore, what should be overseen is overlooked.
Additionally, schools should:
1.    Have  zero tolerance to bullying which can lead to depression and psychotic issues. The rules should be clear, emphasized often and strictly implemented.
2.    Abolish corporal punishment which is archaic and can lead to serious problems if a child is already abused at home—physically, psychologically, economically, verbally and otherwise. Use alternative forms of discipline.
3.    Schools should raise funds and have school feeding programs for the deserving students.
4.    All schools should have vibrant clubs—sports, drama, poetry and writing, art and craft, newspaper, yearbook, gardening, etc.—to bring out students’ potentials, keep them occupied constructively and boost their self-worth.
5.    Test for illegal drug use, with the consent of parents, with the aim of intervention,
6.    Have a Parents’ Day each term/semester to educate parents on parenting skills and best practices.

PARENTS
Children spend more time with their parents who are the first ones to socialize them. Therefore, they are molded by their parents in their formative years. This kind of conditioning can have lasting effects on the children. My advice to parents:
1.    Show love to your children; they did not asked to be born.
2.    Don’t beat your children. Use other forms of disciplining—grounding (taking away certain privileges temporarily), giving extra chores, etc.; do not starve you children as a form of disciplining them.
3.    Monitor your children’s activities and make sure they keep the right friends, and do the right things, watch appropriate TV programs and listen to good music. (The generation gap may cause difference of taste, but you should recognize moderate from extreme)
4.    Spend quality time with your children; ask them probing questions about school, social activities and friends. Go to church, parks, resorts and other places with them.
COMMUNITY
In the modern world it is no longer our business, like before, what others do in public. However, we can still be good samaritans and be our brothers’ (and sisters) keepers. If our objective is to have a good quality of life and prevent suicide, we all can contribute to the betterment of others.
My take:
1.    Businesses, especially big ones, should put back something into the community from where they accrue their wealth. They should provide scholarships, provide supplies for school feeding programs, contribute to the building and upgrading of parks and assist the police and medical clinics with equipment.
2.    The Education Department should employ Truant Officers to monitor absenteeism; the officers who seek out school age children at home and on the streets and liaise with the parents and other authorities. Neighborhood Police can assist in this.
3.    We can all help people truly in need, whether financially or emotionally—by cash or kindness—
(do not provoke differently-abled, the mentally ill or physically infirm, just to have a kick) so that their lives can be worthwhile, for we do not know what karma have in store for us as the world goes around.
4.    Crimes are committed due to means, motive and opportunity. We should not only get rid of the motive, but also of the means and opportunity. Poisonous substances such as gramoxone, as well as all medication, should be secured with locks. Better yet, the location of poisons should not be disclosed to everybody; parents are culpable for carelessly placing these substances where everyone can easily access them. Also, pharmacies should not dispense certain drugs without prescription. While overdose cannot be easily monitored, accessibility can be. Editor, I do hope that the people read, digest and implement these ideas which I accumulated from years of being in schools in five countries and from decades of training in education and counseling. While we may not be able to save everyone, as crime of passion can be spontaneous, it is my fervent hope that this scourge will come to an end, sooner rather than later.
Karan Chand
Educationist
Region Two

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