There was no negligence on the guards’ part

Nov 19, 2010 Letters

Dear Editor,
Another domestic violence case hits the headlines, a nurse is stabbed then doused with a corrosive substance and immediately the blame game commences, as to whose fault it is. Seems like Guyana is fast chalking up a record with this foolishness when something of this nature occurs, that is, persons totally unrelated to the matter have to pay the price for the mistakes made by others.
In this case the poor security guards who were held accountable for dereliction of duty. I must ask the question why? Why should they be punished for something they had no control over?
Here we have a situation where the guards are at their respective positions being approached by a gentleman, who requested to see the nurse in the maternity ward. He later located her then committed a violent act. These guards were not neglectful in their duties, neither were they wrong in granting him permission because he is a well know visitor to the nurse in question (her paramour to be exact) so there would not be the usual security screening, such as wait here please, let’s contact the nurse or have her come down to see you.
In either case scenario what subsequently happened would have taken place anyway; we know the drill in this all too familiar deadly game of some of our womenfolk.
I have been an advocate for sometime now that the so called victims of abusive relationships are themselves to be blamed for their predicament. If you have broken off a relationship with an abuser who stalks you then for God’s sake do the right thing, secure yourself with a protective order from a court of law and stand by it.
But these women continue to harbour the silly thought that the men would change and somehow the abuse will stop, but this rarely happens it only gets worse, with most cases reaching a tragic end. The common trend of victims is to play the dicey game, courting death in the long run.
We are all aware of the fact that this was not his first attempt at striking her because statements by her work colleagues can attest to this fact.
You see the abuse begins with a threat which the woman interprets to be the “harmless words” of a jealous lover, then the first blow as he steps up the pressure for her to confirm to his rules.
When these tactics do not get the desired result he goes on an all out offensive what we call in common Guyanese parlance “I gon mash up she face” this is exactly the case in the latest assault.
Interestingly enough there hasn’t been much communication coming from the victim which gives a clear indication that she might have forgiven her attacker which makes the present hue and cry an exercise in futility. It’s the same old story in this saga of domestic violence.
Women act like you have some sense! Stop fooling around with that abuser, in the long run you will get hurt if not killed. I implore you to make use of all the systems at your disposal to empower yourself. The power lies within reach only if you take hold of it.
Neil Adams

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